8 Year Report, the Captain

 
 
This is the report I save until last, and it has the least real information, but it is my favorite to do, and the hardest. I look back at the last year and go wow! The things I have learned and experienced in this life changing year.

 
alone on a white sandy beach, common here
alone on a white sandy beach, common here
 
We have centered our cruising range down quite a  bit, the central part of the Philippines has become our home, marina bound half the year and cruising the other half. This has brought back some missing grounding.  Now I have friends I see often and regularly, not the zapping past type I experienced in the years of constant travel.  There is a feeling of “home” I get in the three major places we go: Subic Bay, Puerto Galera and Coron. At each stop we spend time with the friends we have collected over the last 4 years. I like that!

 
 
 
joy that money cannot buy
joy that money cannot buy
 
Along with my new “homes” I have a new family, a big one! I have become connected with Donna’s family, both the immediate 4 sisters, parents and grandmother but also the Barangay in which they live.  I am known to all as Tito Brian and loved, I like that as well.  I cannot describe the over flow of emotion and warmth I get from dishing out ice cream to the local kids, who always come running when I arrive. The hugs, the kiss on the cheek from the little neighbor girls, man you just cannot buy that kind of rush.  Ok you can, it costs a bucket of ice cream hahaha. For the cost of that ice cream you get more than you do out of years of therapy I bet.

 
 
The internal conflict I struggled with for the last year is the raging battle between my fears, long established and well-founded fears of marriage vs my love’s dreams. As I wrote in my blog, dreams should always win.  It was with that revelation that I dropped to my knees and proposed in front of 35 “family” members one warm August evening. She said YES.

 
“What do you mean NO?  now guess who said it!
“What do you mean NO?  now guess who said it!
 
 
Piam’s graduation
Piam’s graduation
 
I do believe the greatest change has come in my eager willingness to accept a son. Like marriage, my experiences with “step kids” have not gone that well, never easy and often heart breaking.  Then came Piam. There is no conflict, no resentment, no testing and no limits to how much I love him, and he loves me. He is such a great age, ready for adventure and fun.  I simply have blast with him. Just when I thought I was running out of adventures he comes along and opens up a whole new world of possibilities. With him we have found a balance as well. He loves his family and home, there is not “rescuing” to do there for sure. He also loves his boat time and has become quite the good crew.  The other day he had Donna live video “his room” to show his friends at school where he sleeps on the boat along with a walking tour of the boat.

Ahh but what about the boat? Was I to be like other cruisers who found the missing romance in their lives and gave up on the boat? No way! Donna and Piam love the cruising life as much as I do, Donna is not one to sit in one place very long.  We have found a balance I do cherish.

As in each year the boat has provided many lessons. When we have problems with this or that, or hassle getting parts, I always revert to the knowledge that “it will all turn out OK”.  The Philippines have turned out to be the best place since the USA for boat maintenance and at prices dramatically lower.  I confess to a degree of laziness here. I can get a job done that I could easily do, albeit with some discomfort – the old bones don’t bend like they used to—for small money. So, I opt to hire jobs done I would usually do myself. The question is easy, do I want to spend all day bent over and cussing or pay twenty bucks?

The interesting thing is that the more you learn the more you know how much you do not know.  My knowledge of the boat systems is light years ahead of eight years ago, yet I am constantly learning, often by mistake.  Often the wisdom I have is from acting without wisdom. When you come to grips with that idea it makes your screw ups easier to take. Wow I sure learned from that mess I made haha.

It is with such blessings, and I am blessed, that I enter my ninth year of cruising. As the song goes, “the future is so bright I have to wear shades”. I am one grateful guy.

Make Your Dream Your Story

Capt. Brian Calvert

M/Y Furthur

www.furthuradventures.com

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SUBJECT: Re: 8 Year Report, the Captain Congratulations! What a great year.  Wishing you all the best. Randy Hacker Randy On Feb 17, 2018 5:33 PM, Furthur Adventure wrote:

 randy  2/19/2018

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Your story is beautiful.  Much Love and Many Blessings!  

 Cheryl Klein  11/17/2017

nice travelling mark. you can visit bali island , indonesia. it's very beatiful place and much tradition in here

 

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 superhero  10/20/2017

Australia 2 is currently located in the Western Australian Maritime Museum in Perth.  Most of the Challengers and Defenders in the 1987 Australian Defence series were fitted with winged keels so might be one of these.  

 John  5/20/2017

Brian, so sorry to hear of your loss, and another Angel arriving in heaven. 

Thank you for sharing your heart and story.

 June  4/6/2017

Great story!  Love that part about the brown skined/black haired Jesus "the way it should be" Haha - Kepp ém coming Captain Brian!  Jonas.

 Jonas Lundström  8/19/2016

Great job, Brian!  I can only imagine how difficult of a position who had.. It is totally amazing all these great opportunities that you have received!  Keep up the great attitude and continue to enjoy this awesome venture!  You make me smile every time I read one of your adventures.  I pray that they will continue to be all good!  Keep us posted..

 Sandy Joski  8/8/2016

Most excellent review! You captured the magic the love the rainbows..…  Loving this!!!

 Carol DaBrescia  6/10/2016

Your words ring true and flow perfectly to describe the adventure we are all on. Miss you! I see a boat trip in my near future as we continue to "Go Further!" One Love! 

 Spirit  6/9/2016

Brian,

Thank You for sharing your "stuff on Further" article!!  We live in Maine and are prepping our new (to us) 46' Trawler for living aboard and cruising, and this information is very helpful!! 

I've been following your adventures for several years now and I can't thank you enough for all the inspiration you've given us!!  Plan to toss off the lines June 2016. 

I hope some day we will cross paths.

Jim

 Jim Mac  11/18/2015

Wow sounds like your living life and having a great adventure all in one the wife and I have thought about upsizing our boat and trying cruising. We enjoy all your updates stay safe and happy 

 Gerald Jackson  11/9/2015

Just read all of this Brian, what a good life for you, so happy for you. I could and should do this too about my life, it's pretty happy ever after as well.Ha Ha world, & good for us:) Stay safe out there on the high seas, there used to be modern day pirates ya know? I was the crew for about a yr. on a 40 ft. Valiant sailboat with my boyfriend who owned it, way back in 1980.  XOXO Linda

 lindahoxit  11/6/2015

Congratulations, great to find a partner in crime to share the adventure with.  I wish you both much happiness.

 Chris French  6/24/2015

Almost 7 years I working at the puerto galera white beach ,, and Barbie he the one of my best friend and I know he meet a lot a coustomer from others place and out of country and thank you so much for a lot of tourist they from my country also my place puerto galera, I hope you injoy and relax;) mowahhh good day

 Icey  5/12/2015

Gr8t

IM

see you

guitar

in hand

 Dev Gottesman   5/5/2015

Nice place i think, i dont know when i can go there, thankyou for this share, i very like it

 boni  3/22/2015

It was a great story, right up to the point where the ping pong story gets introduced  (female crew taken along ). From that point forward, the story becomes watered down, repetitive, exploitive ( so much for Buddhist values ) and lacking the kind of character the story had through the first few years.

Women are more important than whales, yet whales in this adventure obviously get top billing while women seem to be a source of entertainment. Something to have along to please the eye, satisfy urges, make good photos, cook and clean. At least that is how it reads as time goes by.

As for value in other nations (boat work). I find it difficult reconcile how one is willing to pay low labor rates in countries/people we claim to love so much, while paying high labor rates in countries we are not so sad to leave (Oz). Could it be we love those who we can exploit, filling our "needs box" easily? What is not to love? Imagine if we paid those we love the same high rates in other lands? How much better would their lives be?

While it started well, this is now less a story of adventure and a great boat and crew, "usual suspects" and exotic places, dinners on a beach. Sadly the story has taken a turn. One that no longer holds my interest, for reasons stated. No need to read the book.

Should have continued on to the Med.....

 Sparks  1/6/2015

A very well written story ourhigh sschool teachers would grade it a A. Gladto see you going 

FURTHUR   AND SAFE  RECALLED all our high jinx  God  blessed to you ROY

 Roy Christopherson  12/31/2014

Very concerned for you Brother, the Typhoon has wrecked havoc all around you, it looks like.  Hope you are dry & floating my friend.

 SaltyDawg  12/9/2014

Enjoyed reading your adventure. 

 donna olson  12/3/2014

Brian and Christie, Really v glad to meet you both at Kota Kinabalu with Dive Below yesterday and thanks again for showing me onboard Further. Being a "city-person / corporate-warrior", your experience and attitude towards life truly inspires me... It takes a lot of courage and a "dare to be different" mindset to embark on this incredible journey. I m very humbled after listening to your story and amazed by how you managed to touch the lives of people that you meet at the various ports. Wishing you all the very best for all your trips + Rescue diver course and may you always be safe and joyful. Will be following your blog and maybe we have a chance to meet again somewhere , somehow .... Cheers Justin

 Justin Lee  11/16/2014

Great article in Sea Mag. Congrats !

 Kerry  9/20/2014

So glad you were there to celebrate with us--I loved your speech :)

 Lua  8/30/2014

Cap't, it was a pleasure to share the journey with you, and I hope for a time again to be in your bright and energetic company. Derek

 Derek  8/7/2014

Love it man! It was great meeting you in Madison and wishing you all the best! Flowpoetry

 Flowpoetry  8/5/2014

Brian it was wonderful meeting you in Madison at the first Furthur Test in over 50 years. What a ride!!! Looking forward to the adventure of life and I have a feeling that our paths will cross again. Doc and Bertha Bus Productions would love to work with you when your ready. Stay in touch! Hope to see you at Phases!

 Spiritmentalist (Ashlee)  7/28/2014

Well done (Pops)! :)

 Jonas Lundstrom  5/19/2014

Ulterior motives! Nicely done ;-)

 Ken  4/13/2014

I have friends and family similarly afflicted. Your message brings hope. Thank you.

 unknown  3/19/2014

Wow, Brian! Thank you for sharing your life story! I stil think you should write that book, and I no more think you should "drop the anchor" to do it; you are doing excelent writing under way! Radoje MY Kitri, Selene 5498

 Radoje Micic  3/18/2014

I would of loved to engaged the aux.

 troz  10/22/2013

Brian I have one question for you, Is there ever NOT a smile on your face ?

 Kerry  8/1/2013

Thanks Brian for the lovely tribute. You were a good friend to him and he loved the fact that you shared the same birthday. I am so glad we got to see you at Pangkor Island...what can I say it was just such a shock. He was not complaining of feeling ill and was so happy that we had crossed the Singapore strights. The night he died he said to me "the adventure begins tomorrow." I know that he is still with me even though my life has changed drastically. I am presently back in Melbourne staying with my best friend but will go back to Malaysia in a month or 2 to sort out the boat. I truely hope that we meet again somewhere along the track and he really loved you Brian xxx

 Lorraine  5/17/2013

Hey Brian! Wish we were there with Totem and you at the Freedom Bar! Very cool you got the privilege of hanging with Naill, an amazing guy. The girls are fantastic, too -- I'm sure they'll be Furthur crew in due time! Big hug to you! A2

 Alison and Allan  5/13/2013

Hello Captian Brian! Loved reading about your most recent journey. Thank you for all the details about the different marinas and the shopping. Bonne journèe

 Brenda  4/4/2013

Brian: Linda and I have enjoyed your blog this past year since meeting you at Seattle Opening Day last year. Are you coming back again this year?

 Tom Pickens  3/25/2013

Brian, I will forward your latest post to my American friend JonLee who is currently teaching in Salalah, Oman. She has some insights re the Muslim women, their attire and life style. She also taught in NE Thailand for quite a few years so has that experience to compare and contrast. Thank you for the thought provoking blog and beautiful photos. Keep strumming!

 Brenda Prowse  3/20/2013

Happy Year of the Snake, Pappa hero!

 Brenda Prowse  2/11/2013

Excellent account, Brian. I really like the way you related your experience to "Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance." Robert Pirsig would be proud!

 Brenda  1/23/2013

que impresionante ju!!!!!!!que hermosa experiencia!!!!!

 unknown  1/10/2013

I've said it before but I'll say it again, YOU ARE ONE LUCKY DUDE !

 Kerry  1/2/2013

Awesome blogpost & story Brian! We are coming for our first visit in Thailand early November & will use some of your dive blogpost for ideas. Cheers, enjoy and will meet on the road someday. That's us if you are interested www.free-to-dream.org

 David  11/13/2012

Hola July!!!!!!! Estoy con Mari y con Adri en mi cumple!!!! te estamos viendo estas hermosa y felíz te quiero Muuuucchooooo!!!!!!! Un beso enoooorrrmmmmeeeee te mandamos todas

 Silvia  10/20/2012

Idea for you, Brian: drop the anchor for a while and write the book! Me be the first in a list of pre-orders! Radoje, wanabe in your wake

 Radoje  9/19/2012

WOW just WOW ! That was scary to read, I cant imagine what it was like in person. Stay safe.

 Kerry  8/26/2012

Kitty from Thailand remember me Brian and me work in chalong

 Kitty  6/27/2012

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